Mr. Sensitive

August 29, 2011

Secret War – Battle of Blegos

Filed under: Uncategorized — lbej @ 15:06

First strike this afternoon.  Two bins out–I judge that they have destroyed everything they’ve received from everyone for every occasion since they were born, leaving the wreckage for me to discover and dispose of.  It’s too much.  I’ve spent the last hour separating tiny Lego pieces and even tinier plastic beads.

Why don’t I just throw it all away?  Because people who care about Jenny gave her these Legos, and I can’t bring myself to throw them out–those good people don’t deserve such disregard, even if she doesn’t deserve any of what she has or any of the people who gave it to her.  I am waiting for the Empress to return to decide their fate–I want to take everything they have and leave them in a bare room.  But I will allow that I have been reading very many detailed accounts of Stalinist show trials, and my sense of justice may be a bit misaligned.  So I wait, and sort.




  1. I want those beads. Or better yet, tell Jenny to make me a necklace out of them. Like a choker- so a small necklace.

    Comment by Charlotte — August 30, 2011 @ 00:04 | Reply

  2. I think we got her some of those legos (and probably beads, too). It won’t hurt our feelings in the least if you get rid of them. I used to throw out stuff my kids had all the time when they were little. There comes a time when they don’t play with them any longer and they are only making a mess and taking up space.

    Comment by Ruby Machi — August 30, 2011 @ 09:53 | Reply

    • I appreciate that, really. It hurts my feelings, though, and my feelings are the ones those two have to watch out for. I think that if I hadn’t given over most of 2010 to cleaning up their mess (and admittedly, much of mine and Katie’s), it wouldn’t have offended me as much as it did. Katie has outlined a process for them to follow in order earn back the privileges I revoked and the conditions are severe, but fair. The key element, from my perspective, is a reversal in the order of things. Previously, I issued punishments if (when) they broke rules or failed to keep up with their responsibilities, but the default state was that they had all the things they wanted. Now they have pushed me too far, and so the new default state is that they have nothing except what they need and we are obliged to provide. They can earn back some of the things they lost, but my thinking has changed. I just want them to be happy and I hate being this way, but I can’t have them thinking that they are entitled to things they haven’t earned. The rest of the world doesn’t have any special interest in meeting that expectation, and I will be responsible in part if they aren’t able to respond appropriately to that reality when they’re adults.

      Comment by lbej — August 30, 2011 @ 10:18 | Reply

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